If your relationship has lost its passion and charm, it doesn’t mean that there is no way back. Surely, stress, routine and various problems can dim the flame of passion and turn an exciting relationship into a dull routine. But the good news is if you and your partner want to save your relationship and are willing to put some efforts into it, you will most likely succeed.

The key factor in any relationship is romance. If there is no romance, there is not going to be a passion. Re-learn to flirt with your partner. Don’t take him or her for granted and try to remember how much you enjoyed time you spent together and how much you were looking forward to see each other again.

Take a break from your routine and monotonous style at least once a month and do something together. Don’t just go out to eat, because this will not benefit your relationship much. Instead, go to a romantic place; rent a hotel room; go dancing together. Don’t lie to yourself that you are busy, have no money or no energy to do that. If you don’t invest in your relationship and marriage, it may fail and then everything else will seem insignificant.

Go on dates often. It doesn’t matter how many months or years you are together. If you get into the habit of going out on dates, even if it is a 1 hour coffee date on a weekend, you will see that your relationship is improving. This will only work if you treat these dates as dates. It means no sweatpants, dirty jeans and talk about dry cleaning. Try to look beautiful. Remember those times when you were trying hard to look good, hoping that your partner will appreciate it. Many people don’t give a crap about how they look after they get married and have kids. And then they are wondering why their passion fades and marriage fails.

Try to be closer to your partner or spouse wherever you are. Don’t follow them to every room, because it is annoying, but sit right next to them when you are watching TV, or come give them a hug or a back rub when they are sitting at their computer.

Be spontaneous. Kiss them when they don’t expect it; tell them that you love them often, or thank them for being your partner/spouse. These small gestures will show your partner that you love them, which will make them feel good about themselves and about you, and will save your relationship.

Be honest with yourself and with each other. If there is something bothering you, share it with your partner. Having secrets can kill passion and relationship, but remember to always be respectful and tactful.

Lastly, try to be there for your partner when he needs you. Remember though, that presence is much more than just being there.

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