Whether you are newlyweds or marriage veterans, happy marriage requires efforts. Many marriages fail because people wrongly assume that romantic love will last forever and that everything will just go naturally well.

They almost feel offended when they see books or articles on successful marriage tips and tricks and think that it is silly and unnecessary. They are aware of marriages failing, but think that they are special and their love is real and, therefore, their relationship and marriage will succeed for matter what.

Then, when the period of chocolates, flowers and movies is over and the couple starts living together, romance slowly fades. The love still might be there, but small things like hair in the bathroom, smelly socks, or urine on a toilet seat, make it harder to feel romantic. Marriage can be frustrating and sometimes pretty darn annoying, but if you do your homework and are willing to take pink glasses of and work on your marriage, you will most likely succeed. You can have a hot romantic marriage and not even the dirty socks can change it.

One of the best marriage tips I’ve heard it is to flirt with each other. Remember how you looked at each other and talked to each other before you got married. I understand that it is hard to flirt with each other when you have kids with you all the time, or all you can think of is who is going to do the dishes after dinner. It might be hard, but you can make it happen.

Find a baby-sitter and go out on a date. Don’t just go out to eat. Go for a walk or to movies together. Make a promise to each other not to talk about work, kids, dishes and finances. Talk about love, talk about each other, talk about your first date and so on…Hold hands and leave your worried behind…

Try something new together. Take a class together, or go to a new place. Shake things up a little. If every Friday night you watch TV together, go to theater instead (don’t forget to hold hands while there).

Do something exciting. Apparently, excitement plays an important role in relationships. According to a study which was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, married couples who took part in activities which both partners considered very exciting but moderately pleasant had a much bigger  boost in marital satisfaction than couples who did activities that were very pleasant but moderately exciting.

Surprise each other. Bring your partner flowers or send him/her a love note when they don’t expect it.

Remember to say “I love you” often. Mean it when you say it.

These marriage tips might be simple, but they do make a difference. Give them a try and you will not regret it.

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